tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post6059940145366056229..comments2023-10-11T07:39:33.769-05:00Comments on This is Worthwhile: Social media interactions: How not to be an assholeUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-16466550200080502332010-07-03T06:46:49.172-05:002010-07-03T06:46:49.172-05:00I have two facebook accounts - one for real life f...I have two facebook accounts - one for real life friends, family, former classmates and some select clients. I have another one that is related to my blog, which includes very few people that I know in real life, but where I'm quite liberal about letting strangers in. However, the strangers that come in need to accept that I am loud and opinionated and I'm not going to self-censor.Annie @ PhD in Parentinghttp://phdinparenting.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-68317506107793749762010-06-27T18:46:02.679-05:002010-06-27T18:46:02.679-05:00There's a valid point in not exposing those in...There's a valid point in not exposing those in your "real life" to your "online life." I know I keep mine fairly separate. However, I was possibly saved from a toxic friendship with a woman who broke so many of these rules. In person she was warm, funny and seemed to have a lot in common with several in my group of friends -to which she was new- myself included. On-line she was judgmental, dishonest (both by telling lies and by exposing the lies she told in person), made jokes (that were based on her lies) at the expense of my friends - her friends...<br />I have a feeling most of "us" are filtering for our audience and would stand by anything we said if "caught", but frankly I'm glad she didn't have the scruples to keep them separate!Cranky Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07810950561309396476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-79492747733689896632010-06-24T08:32:02.765-05:002010-06-24T08:32:02.765-05:00Now that's a social media post everyone should...Now that's a social media post everyone should read. I get so annoyed when people jump down my throat for something I say online...<br /><br />You rock.Amber Page Writeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03288534853490787988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-3927343174102649862010-06-24T08:19:36.772-05:002010-06-24T08:19:36.772-05:00Love this post. Love how it was unexpected, too. I...Love this post. Love how it was unexpected, too. I figured you were going to do what you warn people <i>not</i> to: tell me how to conduct my own online space. Very cool that you did the opposite.<br /><br />I have not told my family (parents, siblings, I mean, not my husband — ha!) about my blog, because I want the freedom to say what I want. I have two Facebook accounts, and I barely visit the restricted, family-oriented one, and I am very cautious there. Twitter is so fun for me, because barely anyone I know IRL knows me on Twitter, and I can just let it hang out.<br /><br />Philosophical question: Why is it we're least forthcoming with those we're theoretically closest to?<br /><br />I'd love to know the answer to Melodie's question as well, because while I swear like a sailor in real life, in online life I've been trying to keep it G-rated, for various reasons.Lauren Waynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500733577920040395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-83110652566315766422010-06-22T13:51:34.037-05:002010-06-22T13:51:34.037-05:00You said it all, and oh so well, so you left nothi...You said it all, and oh so well, so you left nothing for me to say- except You are awesome and I adore you. <br /><br />they say you can judge people by their friends, and I'm thinking the fact that you are my birthday buddy gets me additional points, so thank you for making me look good ;-)Elisa @ Globetrotting in Heelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920820564549246339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-54842715869805189362010-06-21T21:46:28.740-05:002010-06-21T21:46:28.740-05:00Love this post. One question for you: Etiquette fo...Love this post. One question for you: Etiquette for re-tweeting a post that has a swear in it's title. I just tweeted this because that's what I do when I love a post, but *I* didn't feel comfortable with the last part of the title "How not to be a fucking asshole" under my twitter profile. So I omitted it to say Tis Worthwhile on Social Media Interactions. Hm. I felt like I was omitting an important part of what you were saying in/about the post and therefore being rude by not tweeting it in full and yet even though I swear sometimes I don't like to swear too much on twitter. So is that okay to omit someone else's swear because you are doing them a favour anyway, or is it more rude to change their title to feel more comfortable in one's own on line space? <br />Or am I looking too much into this? <br />:)Melodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05859568015767404451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-7494490773155385802010-06-21T13:43:33.254-05:002010-06-21T13:43:33.254-05:00very interesting post and you're right...i do ...very interesting post and you're right...i do find i'm censoring myself far too much on FB for the 200+ people i rarely talk to. using twitter seems like a more "private" niche where one can bawd, curse or sparkle however they please b/c those who would be offended can simply unfollow. as always, you've given me lots to think about and i like that.OSMAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09516772645440098038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-7896426653659897462010-06-21T13:28:37.270-05:002010-06-21T13:28:37.270-05:00Excellent post Jessica! I feel sometimes censored ...Excellent post Jessica! I feel sometimes censored on my blog because I know my family reads it, so there are for sure some things I can't and won't talk about on there. And with Twitter, I tend to ramble on and on and on... but I'm selective in what I say, too... but swearing... fuck... if anyone has a problem with that, they can go screw themselves! ;) xoLoukiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03066879990007701379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-47298524767654456642010-06-21T12:45:17.845-05:002010-06-21T12:45:17.845-05:00I am pretty open online. I'm comfortable with ...I am pretty open online. I'm comfortable with that. I'm not sure I always do the right thing, but I try not to take it personally or be a jerk.<br /><br />But I am totally uncool with kids on Facebook. I have a 5-year-old, she gets stuff, but she lacks judgment. There's no way I'm letting her check it out. If you're in an adult space, which is how I view Facebook and Twitter and a lot of the blogs I read, you shouldn't have your kids with you.<br /><br />Although you SHOULD understand that your kids could see what you write. Which is a whole other thing, altogether.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-74008425166771161112010-06-21T11:30:37.297-05:002010-06-21T11:30:37.297-05:00I have a few FB accounts. I try to keep my "...I have a few FB accounts. I try to keep my "real life friends" completely separate from my online people. My blog is a perfect example. While I don't use fake names, I NEVER mention it in conversation to friends and family. There are only a few people that know me in real life that know about the blog. I feel like, while it's public, it's my own personal space. I do have Google Alerts set up for search terms that I know will bring you pretty much directly to my blog. I also check to see where people are clicking in from. While I wouldn't be totally mortified if people found out about it, I might be if they found my Twitter account associated with that online persona :-)<br /><br />I was just commenting the other day how I really miss the time when online life was a separate part of my life....far far away from family and old H.S. friends. Sure, like you, I dated my way through the internet...met friends...had real interaction with these screen names that had once seemed so foreign. BUT, since these people had came from the same online environment as I...they understood the "life" HA! <br /><br />My mother, IL's, aunts, uncles, random people from school...they do not. I hide most of them from my feed ;DAmber, The Unlikely Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08889294257203900407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-24406918973514355452010-06-21T11:07:32.026-05:002010-06-21T11:07:32.026-05:00I keep thinking about bailing on Facebook. It feel...I keep thinking about bailing on Facebook. It feels restrictive and I'm often wondering just what the point of holding on to the "friendships" of people I haven't seen since elementary school is. I saw the scolding that Scary Mommy received on her Facebook page and thought it was pretty stupid of that commenter. If it was me and I was offended I would have just removed myself from her page.Marilyn (A Lot of Loves)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06657908406859803924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-80981289187367791002010-06-21T10:30:36.045-05:002010-06-21T10:30:36.045-05:00Man, this was SUCH a great post. I have to say, I...Man, this was SUCH a great post. I have to say, I rarely even post stuff on FB because, like you said, I don't feel "safe" on there to really say what I want to say. I've thought about paring down the list of friends - or just canceling it all together. Haven't quite decided yet. But it all has to do with exactly what you're referring to.foxyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16352196676526508960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-92231037163882372662010-06-21T08:55:10.099-05:002010-06-21T08:55:10.099-05:00Gen X OG online folks!!! Oh, that was awesome.
Th...Gen X OG online folks!!! Oh, that was awesome.<br /><br />This is an excellent post. I started living online in the early '90s in chat rooms (gasp!). They were considered scary at the time - I even met people from them. It's a wonder I'm still alive, really. I started with ICQ 15+ years ago and never looked back. Social interactions online are definitely different, though I'd never really thought about it in the way you've articulated it. Thanks!Sarahhttp://sarahcasm.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-48832796002322675392010-06-21T08:21:33.463-05:002010-06-21T08:21:33.463-05:00I make good use of the filtering available on Face...I make good use of the filtering available on Facebook. Most of the inlaws just get to see pictures and not the wall (after incidents where I felt like my MIL was stalking my FB page and updates).<br /><br />For someone who gets to see friends face to face so infrequently, social media is a great resource used to still feel connected to something besides this job, being a mother, or running a house.Katrinahttp://skippingdownthestairs.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-19984984381558981942010-06-21T07:58:20.073-05:002010-06-21T07:58:20.073-05:00What a great post - I have never had anyone try to...What a great post - I have never had anyone try to censor what I say on my FB page, but I've had plenty of eye opening exchanges about the views of my FB "friends."Dionna @ Code Name: Mamahttp://codenamemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-40409464323114567632010-06-21T07:31:30.058-05:002010-06-21T07:31:30.058-05:00i culled my "friends" list down a few we...i culled my "friends" list down a few weeks ago to only people i *actually talk to*! imagine that! i don't really need people i met one time or someone i worked with six years ago creeping around my page looking at my photos and updates when we don't even talk to each other.<br /><br />that said, i AM friends will all my family and my husband's family on there, so i don't post hardly at all. just like you did, i feel like i have to mind my manners. my real friends know they can find me on twitter if they need me. facebook is just so my mom can see pictures of the baby.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07187151463075117941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-58274642781419872742010-06-21T06:59:29.169-05:002010-06-21T06:59:29.169-05:00Excellent, excellent post. Others seem to not unde...Excellent, excellent post. Others seem to not understand how the online environment works - and the whole FB thing is a slap in the face - talk about personal space! Sadly, I don't think there will ever be an end to this issue as "those" people will continue to do what they think is ok.Theta Momhttp://www.thetamom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-87463754371463849132010-06-21T06:16:01.517-05:002010-06-21T06:16:01.517-05:00Good things to think about. Thanks Jessica.Good things to think about. Thanks Jessica.Capital Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10169811675874649402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8392034857491788011.post-13106129211313280262010-06-21T04:39:48.313-05:002010-06-21T04:39:48.313-05:00You know I'd never thought about that - there ...You know I'd never thought about that - there is a generation, that of my children, that will never have known life without mobile phones, socila media HD tv DVD's or any other number of gadgets and gismos. It sounds weird to say it lke that huh+<br /><br />I think schools will eventualy have to embrace it, this online world, because it really is such a big part of peoples lives.Not From Laplandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17165208811776097332noreply@blogger.com